5 signs you’re dating a loser
The side effects of dating a loser can be detrimental to your mental health you WILL experience frustration, stress, anxiety and in the worse cases you can actually become a loser yourself! Here are the warning signs that you could be dating a loser.
1. He has no motivation.
This is probably the most unattractive trait of them all. Losers usually use every single excuse in the book as to why they can’t or won’t do something. This can be extremely frustrating if you’re a go-getter who just so happened to fall in love with a loser. I dated a guy in college who I had to convince he should finish school-he never finished and we didn’t either. Abandon ship now girl, if a man is lackadaisical and unmotivated there is nothing you can do to motivate said loser, keep trucking.
2. He says things like “Women want the whole world”.
Of course we do! I once play-dated a guy that said this (I say play date because he was just someone to pass the time-nothing serious). My response to this sorry phrase that men sometimes use on women to make them feel like they want too much from life or a relationship was “Well I’ll tell you right now I want the whole world and maybe a little more”. That was met with silence-needless to say it didn’t last long.
3. He doesn’t understand the principle of sacrifice.
The principle of sacrifice is a basic survival skill. If you’re dating someone who lacks the understanding that you do what you have to do now so that you can do what you want to do later then you’re definitely dating a loser. Ambitious men understand sacrifice and ambitious men always become successful men.
4. He can’t solve problems.
Or worse he looks to you for the answers. I will not lie I think this is one of the primary reasons God made man for woman. So that he can fix all of the things we don’t know how or care to fix. If the guy you’re dating can’t help solve or at least assist in resolving problems then he is not a man. And if he looks to you to solve problems then he is in fact a loser. Sounds harsh but that is the reality of it all. Now I’m not saying he needs to be a genie but he should at least have the basic knowledge or knowhow to get things done.
5. He doesn’t have goals.
It’s nearly impossible to live a successful life without goals, but its not impossible if you’re complacent. If he doesn’t have goals and you can’t dream with him your life will be stagnant, you will remain right where you are as long you two are together.
Losers hide behind flashy attire, fast talk and charm- all, which are very distracting. Do yourself a favor and heed these 5 signs. That being said #dateselfishly